To Whom it May Concern

This letter is Meant as a Sound Off to All the People, that If I Actually said this to them would Inflict Greater Damage than What I have Endured, Over Many Years

                    To Whom it May Concern.

Your Actions / Interactions Have Consequences.

How you have Chosen to Interact with others has Impacted others

                                         - Let Alone Your Family -

Your Careless Disregard for Others Thoughts, Feelings and Actions has Created a Perpetual FEAR of Your 

Anger                                                                                                                                                      Disappointment                                                                                                                                      and                                                                                                                                                          Despair

Which Stems from Your Self-Righteous, Entitled and Blind Reaction to Your Traumatic Childhood. Your Decision to Occupy Your Past Trauma - locked in a box - in which you are Possessed with the Encryption, has Created a:

Condescending                                                                                                                    Narcissistic                                                                                                                                Vindictive                                                                                                                                            Karen

That has Lost the Ability to Feel or Express Thoughts and Feelings that would Hint at a Vulnerability that is best defended with a verbal onslaught of how YOU have been wronged or slighted in the Least Possible Way.

YOU ARE LOVED

UNCONDITIONALLY

WHETHER YOU LIKE OR NOT

 - Scott Wajda

• Family Roles

We each grew up playing a role in our families:

• Hero
• Scapegoat
• Mascot
• Lost Child

Our Role may have been related to birth order, or perhaps to how we innately reacted to our situation.  If we had several siblings, we probably shared these roles;                                                If we were from a small family or were an only child, we may have had to play multiple roles.

Each role carried certain Expectations.                                                                                                Even if the role appeared positive to the outside world, like the hero, it likely turned into a negative as we attempted to wear it while navigating through our adult years.

ACOA helps us learn how to shed these shackling roles:                                                                        -  We begin to set limits.                                                                                                                       -  We begin to act in healthier "unexpected" ways around our dysfunctional                                         family of   origin.                                                                                                                                -  We choose to No Longer react to events that once set us emotionally                                             spinning out of control.                                                                               

The process is not easy and may take time, yet through it all we learn to live life on our own terms.                                                                                                                                                  When we are Successful, we release:

 Fear                                                                                                                                                       Chaos                                                                                                                                                     Control                                                                                                                                                     and                                                                                                                                                          Rigidity

from our lives, We find New Freedom, which is an Amazing Reward.

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