Family Roles

• Family Roles

We each grew up playing a role in our families:

• Hero
• Scapegoat
• Mascot
• Lost Child

Our Role may have been related to birth order, or perhaps to how we innately reacted to our situation.  If we had several siblings, we probably shared these roles;                                                If we were from a small family or were an only child, we may have had to play multiple roles.

Each role carried certain Expectations.                                                                                                Even if the role appeared positive to the outside world, like the hero, it likely turned into a negative as we attempted to wear it while navigating through our adult years.

ACOA helps us learn how to shed these shackling roles:                                                                        -  We begin to set limits.                                                                                                                       -  We begin to act in healthier "unexpected" ways around our dysfunctional                                         family of   origin.                                                                                                                                -  We choose to No Longer react to events that once set us emotionally                                             spinning out of control.                                                                               

The process is not easy and may take time, yet through it all we learn to live life on our own terms.                                                                                                                                                  When we are Successful, we release:

 Fear                                                                                                                                                       Chaos                                                                                                                                                     Control                                                                                                                                                     and                                                                                                                                                          Rigidity

from our lives, We find New Freedom, which is an Amazing Reward.

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Taken From Strengthening My Recovery 

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